In one of those serendipitous web moments, I stumbled across this essay the other day. I found it very enlightening and helpful. Not sure where it should be, probably somewhere in the D and D, but I thought it could be useful for both neophyte and veteran posters in elevating the level of discussion. It certainly pointed out some of my own shortcomings in that area. So, for your consideration:
How to Disagree
How to Disagree