Divorce

[Shazbot]

What are your guy's thoughts on divorce?

During the summer my parents told me that they were getting a divorce... I've basically been in denial about it, but I just kearned that on Sunday, I'm gonna be moving in with my mom for a week, then I move to me Dad's the next and then back to my Mom's ect. I haven't told anyone because I've been embarrassed about it, all my other friends save two have married parents. But both of the ones with divorced parents were seperate before we even knew them.

I would like to hear your guys' thoughts before I start my weekly routine...

Thanks to all who reply...

[Trey]

My parents are divorced, and none of my friend's are. It'll be tough at first, it really will. Don't be embarassed to talk about it, even though I understand how you feel. You need to hammer it into your head that it had nothing to do with you, so you should feel no shame. Let your parents know how you feel, you can't bottle anything up, it will come back to bite you later, trust me. Sorry man, hope you get through well.

[Armfelt]

My parents divorced when I was six, then got back together, and divorced again when I was eight years old. Needless to say I didn't have the best of childhoods, but I came out all right, and I actually think that it might have made me stronger, albeit it made me colder when I became a teenager. But I guess your a bit too old for that?

I can't really see why you should be embarrassed, why would your friends feel any different about you because your parents are divorced?

All that said I hope that you get through it.

[Spart]

My parents were divorced a long time ago, and I really havn't been worrying about it at all. Hmm, I think it isn't a big deal if both parents still live in the same area..
I don't know if it's too easy to get a divorce nowadays, because maybe half of people here have to face it some day. But meh, that's the way it goes I see.

No reason to be ashamed of it. Where do you live? Here people don't give a **** if someone's parent's are divorced, it's just too common.
But that weekly moving-thing sounds odd, I just visited my dad on weekends or so, but now I'm 18 and I just go whenever I want :p

[Tiwaz]

What are your guy's thoughts on divorce?

During the summer my parents told me that they were getting a divorce... I've basically been in denial about it, but I just kearned that on Sunday, I'm gonna be moving in with my mom for a week, then I move to me Dad's the next and then back to my Mom's ect. I haven't told anyone because I've been embarrassed about it, all my other friends save two have married parents. But both of the ones with divorced parents were seperate before we even knew them.

I would like to hear your guys' thoughts before I start my weekly routine...

Thanks to all who reply...

Well, it's hardly shame to be divorced and even less it is shame for you as you have no control over it.

However, my advice would be to make clear YOUR position on matters. Do not let yourself become any kind of weapon in any disagreements between your parents and do not let them bounce you around as they please.

Because this all is going to be much tougher on you instead of your parents (with you having to move from house to house) so make sure you keep your own interests at heart and not be afraid to bring them out.

[Idwayreth]

my parents divorced when i was about 5 or 6 years old so i really dont remember much. first few months will be hard but you'll get used to it. also i think having you move every week will cause more harm than good.

[sephodwyrm]

Hey Shazbot,

I hope you can get over this. When I was in Singapore I had some hard time because many people isn't really used to the semi-single parent household I came from. I hope the place where you live is more liberal and not too conservative.