FYI - I just got done coding a webpage for the first time for an introductory webdesign class spending nearly 20hrs. on it. Straight. So my patience with anything to do with computers right now is really thin. And I'm thoroughly frustrated because I really want to get better at these things. So sorry for any bad words and such when there probably shouldn't be.
Okay, let me first say this, I have no idea wtf I'm doing when it comes to modding games. As such, I
always play the vanilla version because whenever I have tried to mod, I screw up the game, get frustrated, curse, inanimate objects get harmed,

, etc. Ergo, things aren't too great. And, I'm terrible with technology in general, so it's safe to say I don't know jack

about half the crap most people discuss when trying to install the mod. However, after watching numerous let's play videos of this mod, I really wanted to give this a shot. And, I tried following all of the directions but nothing seems to work.
Here is the basic info: I have
steam (and
VISTA!!! [almost forgot to add this in to my post!

). I lost my physical copies a while back and bought it all on steam a week or two ago.
I downloaded 6.3, the patch, and then 6.4 as instructed into the mod folder. I then tried following
NoMercy's instructions as he is always linked too. Well, that appears to not have worked. Kingdoms doesn't even launch when I try to revert to the original set-up with the "medieval2.exe","kingdoms.exe", and "launcher.exe" in the main medieval total war II folder in the steam folder (or whatever it is called). When I change the "kingdoms.exe" launcher back to "launcher.exe" that is used to start up SS, I get to the loading screen for SS with the cursader guy before it cuts back to the desktop. (Although I actually saw the hourglass icon the last time I tried it so there was some improvement somewhere I suppose

). I tried using the campaign startup from the 6.3 campaign launcher thingy but got confused and nothing happened anyway.
So now I'm debating on whether or not I should just completely uninstall Medieval II and Kingdoms as well as delete all the SS content from my computer. Then reinstall Medieval II and Kingdoms. Then install 6.3, the patch, and 6.4 all over again but follow Mithrandir's directions.
Anyway I'll try to explain some more because I want to make sure people understand my frustration with these things. (Also the only game I have successfully modded was the Combat Mission games Afrika Korps and Barbarossa to Berlin because you just changed the skins.
SUPER easy!

)
With
NoMercy's instructions, this step really lost me, #5.
However, I'm also not sure if I properly downloaded the mode now anyway. (sifts through a bunch of tabs.)
So I go here:
Stainless Steal 6.3 Released to get 6.3. Now, as my understanding, I
must use one of the downloads to get the mod. I originally downloaded from the gamefront one. [btw should not the megaupload be deleted since it is no more?]
Next I get the 6.3 patch which is the link found here where it says, "here as a intaller":
Then I go to the
6.4 release thread and pick from one of these options:
I picked Losthief - Link 3.
But here is what I did.
Everything was put into the Medieval Total War II mod folder in the Steam folder etc. etc. - Found it! (How the directory thingy is supposed to be anyway. Wasn't sure how to write it)
steam/steamapps/common/medieval ii total war/mods
1. Downloaded 6.3 from Mirror 3, Gamefront. All 5 parts. However, I created a folder in there for them called Stainless Steel. Since I had no idea what I was doing because everyone seems to assume I know what I'm doing and that I know how this install process works (which I don't).
2. Next, everyone was saying if you have Steam you use NoMercy's directions. Well I followed them but step 5 made me feel as if I was supposed to know something but completely missed whatever it was
3. Anyway, I then tried starting up Kingdoms with the gamefront files but nothing.
4. Went digging around on the forums trying to grasp where I went wrong since there appeared to be no set of instructions for the proper method of how to install the mod (that I or just missed them and am complaining by this point).
5. Frustrated I look over the 6.3 as well as the FAQ but nothing clicked. Then I saw the whole:
6. I thought, "BY JOVE! I'VE DONE IT!!!!

It had that whole start-up launch.exe thingy going on and I figured I had no need for the gamefront stuff so I completely deleted the folder and the downloads. After that I launched the 6.3/patch installer.
7. I followed that up with the 6.4 download using Losthief's link 3 - gamefront mirror whateveryacallit.
8. But then I hit a snag. I had made sure I still had NoMercy's backup folder with the "launcher.exe" in it while the original "kingdoms.exe" was changed to "launcher.exe" and originally changing "launcher.exe" back to "kingdoms.exe" and finding that the game wouldn't even load properly. I then tried booting up the mod through the Kingdom's launcher via Steam and I got to the to load screen with the Knights Templar guy. But it then subsequently crashed to desktop. I then tried launching it through one of the launchers in the mod folder but got some weird thing telling me it detected Steam and asking me if I had the Kingdoms launcher because it couldn't find it. I don't remember what happened but it didn't work

.
9. Then I tried launching the game using the 6.3 campaign start-up and actually saw the hourglass load icon (it never appeared before) so I felt like I made some progress

before the loading screen crashed again to desktop
10. Since then I've been trying to get the original "launch.exe" out of the backup folder NoMercy instructed to make (never said where to put it so it's in the Medieval II Total War Steam folder) and place it in next to the other two launchers "medieval2.exe" and "kingdoms.exe" (which is now still labeled "launcher.exe"). It goes there as "launcher.exe" - shortcut and I'm wary of these things. Meaning I don't trust it and want the original one back but have no idea how to do so.
11. And now, I had just discovered this beautiful thread, one which I wish I had originally discovered in the first place:
Solving problems with Steam, Vista or Windows 7.
Don't get me wrong, I saw this
but seeing as how the "installer" was in the bug/fixes thing, I thought it was just for that and not actually for Stainless Steel 6.3. It was not clear to me at all. So I'm not even sure I had actually downloaded the necessary stuff with it and the deleted files I got from gamefront, well I have no idea where to put them anyway once downloaded. My overall feeling right now tells me that there appeared to be no overall install instructions for installing the mod with the CD and or the Steam versions and I ended up running all over the place trying to figure out where I went wrong.
I can get the files into the mod folder just fine but its everything else is where I'm stuck. Right now I feel as if this is my best option:
1. Completely delete everything to do with Stainless Steal from my computer.
2.Uninstall Medieval II Total War and Kingdoms from Steam.
3. Reinstall them.
4. Then wait and see what people post here as directions.
5. Go from there.
6. 

7. Play Stainless Steel through Steam!
And just an FYI for those trying to help. If you try to give me directions assuming I know even 1% of any of it, chances are I don't, so you might have to spell everything out. I understand if I made elementary errors and all that but I really just don't know what I'm doing. (All of it was mostly blind guess work. I prefer visual guides lol

)
Anyway, thanks for taking the time to read all that, possibly pull out your hairs, and then try and help me out.
P.S. I'm not touching any of it until people post here on what I should do. And I'll wait for a number of people to post answers before making my move no matter how much experience such-and-so claims to have. (I've just been having computer problems one after the other since December so I'm rather paranoid about it all.)
I'll stop typing in here now, I think I'm rambling 