
Originally Posted by
Timur Amir
the thing is that we don't know exactly how two-sided the elopement is; sure, there was almost certainly a relationship, but that doesn't mean that she was gung-ho in running off an almost certainly killing off her immediate family. I'm not saying Rhaegar is the monster Robert chalked up up to be, but just because he isn't a complete monster does not mean he is a complete hero, and just because Lyanna might have consented to a relationship does not mean that it was her idea or even okay with her. After all, the Targaryens are a little mad, and Rhaegar shows signs of obsession: he turned his entire life upside down, reversed his lifestyle, all for one prophecy in a book. Now, he wanted a child of ice and fire, and if he is willing to rip his own life to shreds for that prophecy, why would he shy away from going a little far with Lyanna? He was desperate for a child, that much is obvious (and not exactly the building block for a healthy relationship), and given Westeros' tradition of not caring what the woman thought, it is a possibility.
We really don't know enough about what happened to say for certain though.