Tartleton: what you seem to want is someone you can dominate, but trust me, it's really a
partnership you should be after. Someone who complements your personality and skills, who's similarly invested in some (but
definitely not all) of your interests. If you cannot respect your woman, it's never gonna last.
I respect women, I just don't worship them.
Running a house and raising kids is serious work. Just because there's no paycheck, doesn't render it unworthy of the title 'job'. Tartleton jests of tossing back whiskey at his 'real' job...yet how would you feel if your stay-at-home, mother-to-your-children were to do likewise?
If things still got done it really doesn't matter. I find a few fingers of whiskey isn't going to do much to me, I'd probably be more efficient. If my wife can get everything done and rewards herself with some wine or something that's great. Running a house and raising kids is lots of work, and I'd be very good at it. It's not where my ultimate interests rest.
I, for one, am
glad I can support our household such that milady can stay home and do the
most important job in our family: that of a fulltime parent. I've got it comparatively easy...simply earning bread in the lab, and returning home each night to a finely tuned nest. I don't need to worry so much about my kid's emotional and intellectual development, nor pay outrageous daycare costs only to keep him home, sick from exposure to some random kid, 30% of the time. My dishes and laundry are usually done before I get home. Always a cold beer in the fridge, and
very rarely must I buy the groceries or shop for clothes. Never have to actually read the parenting books, she does it all and always has a verbal Cliffnote summary for my benefit. I sleep like a stone for many straight hours each night, whereas my spouse periodically awakens for various feedings and diaper-changes of which I remain oblivious until the morning report.
And she's also teaching a couple of classes to supplement my income...yeah, I've got it pretty good!
Sooo you're on my side of the argument?
Women don't
need to be anything. Tartleton's ideal woman would (sooner or later) bore me to tears, and I shudder to consider actually breeding with someone whose intelligence and backbone I find lacking...completely unsuitable genes for our progeny.
Intelligence and backbone are taught not bred. I didn't say I wanted an idiot, I said I didn't want someone who is like significantly smarter than me. That wouldn't make her an idiot by any means. I'm the one contributing the brains and the spine, she's there for good looks and morals
Basics and I don't often agree...but he's right. None of us has any idea, to what extent the demanding
job of "mother" literally sucks the life out of a person. Yet: they're still somehow inferior because they're also capable of competing for our jobs? Stick any one of you in a room with a kid for 8 hours, and I guarantee your esteem for the 'weaker sex' would skyrocket.
I take it, most of ya'll don't really care about the quality of your unborn kids' childhood...or at the very least, have not thought much about it?