The games balanced on M/M, I would recommend anyone to play the mod at that difficulty, at least until they have some experience. Even then I wouldn't go for a battle difficulty other than Medium as I dislike the attack and morale bonuses granted to the AI.
How many provinces do you hold? What economic buildings have you built? They are far more important in the early campaign than developing your military infrastructure. Your governors will become better with very high taxes, I wouldn't worry about the harsh ruler trait.
Do you actually need a full stack army? Have you thought about fighting battles yourself to reduce casualties? So far I've not needed more than just over a half stack with fighting battles myself.
I don't know about the legion ancillaries if I'm honest. I think it's tied to the number of years of military service.
What do you mean by the armies thing? Are you talking about the Roman career system?
I'll use Lucius Tiddlypuss Magnus as an example character of how the career system works, as I roleplay it.
Young Lucius comes of age at 16. Between 16 and 20 he should be in either your capital, or city with the best educational facilities (Academy/Scriptorium/Ludus Magna). Here he will pick up many of his most important traits and ancillaries. If you put him into an army at this stage there is an increased chance of him picking up negative military traits, so you're better off sending him to school.
For Lucius to begin his military career, he needs to be sent off to join an army in the field. He now becomes a Military Tribune, and the military service counter starts. At this point in time he'll be performing various administrative tasks to aid the general in his duties, doling out the troops pay, and cleaning the general's latrine. For Lucius to develop his military career further, he'll need to be with a Roman army
in the field for ten years. He can only spend one season inside a town or he'll get the Former Tribune trait. There isn't anything wrong with that, I just don't like my characters to get that until they've performed their full ten years.
Once Lucius has completed ten years as a Military Tribune, it's time to send him into a settlement for a turn or two. Generally for me I give them a year's leave to study under a governor.
Next time Lucius Tiddlypuss Magnus joins an army, it'll be as a Legate. At this point I let the character have an independent command, if there's one going (currently, all my generals are at this point in their career). I can't remember how long this stage lasts, I think it's at least five years. In any case, just like Lucius' term as a Military Tribune, he needs to remain with the army for the full time period in the field before he can advance his career further.
After his period as a Legate, Lucius' career is really under way. If he's been successful, women in Rome will be buying small busts of him in the forum, and men will wish that they could serve under his command, when the time comes. If not, then he will be shunned in the streets, and the plebs will "accidentally" empty their latrine pots out of the window on him as he walks past. Truly reminiscent of his time cleaning the generals latrine as a Military Tribune. But I digress.
The next stage in his career will be as a General (Praetor). At this stage Lucius will be overseeing entire campaigns to subjugate whole areas to Rome. He will be with the main army, whilst Legates command smaller forces in support, or to perform minor actions in support of the main force. Again, I don't remember how long this stage lasts for.
Now, once Lucius Tiddlypuss Magnus has completed his time as a Praetor, he will be eligible for election to Consul. Truly, he's made it now. To make this transition, as with the rest of the rungs of the career ladder, he will need to spend a few turns in a settlement until he gains the "Former (insert office name here)" trait. Then he'll need to join an army in field again to get the office as Consul.
A couple of important notes:
- Be sure to remove the legion ancillaries from a Praetor before he becomes Consul. The game will not give him the ancillary that generates the Consul trait if he still has Roman Legion 1, for example. He'll need to be awarded the Roman Consular Army 1/2 ancillary by the game to become Consul. Make sure that the character who does hold the consular army ancillary is dead, so that the ancillary is then freed up by the game to be passed on to someone else.
- Whenever the character reaches the end of his term at each level of the career system, be sure to keep him in a settlement until he gains the Former Tribune/Former Legate/Former General trait.
- 25 years military service is required to get from Tribune to Consul, you will need to judge carefully which characters will have a full career so that you can have governors too. For me, I usually cut off characters at 10 years if they would be more suited to governorship.
- After 25 years military service your character is also eligible for the Governor of Latium office. Make sure you have an ancillary slot free for the ancillary that grants this office.
Yeah, you won't get that here
Well, not unless you have a uber governor anyways. Make sure you construct some basic public order buildings, then economic, then more public order, and then military. Unless you have a dire need to recruit troops in a particular province, in which case it'll need a larger garrison to ensure good pulic order.
Hope this all helps
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