Has anyone suffered from Limerence?

[Hiero of Syracuse]

The definition of said term can be found Here.

I've been wondering lately as I read through this sub forum if (we) are alone, many posters seem to suffer from a feeling they don't know or vaguely understand a state of longing and fathomless potents. So I've decided to make this topic in order to dicuss limerence : it's nature and it's classification.

For those who have not took the time to read the link here is a condensed version of what I'm rambling about.

Limerence refers to an involuntary cognitive and emotional state of intense romantic desire for another person. The term was coined by psychologist Dorothy Tennov to describe the ultimate, near-obsessional form of romantic love.[1]
The concept is an attempt at a scientific study into the nature of romantic love. Limerence can often be what is meant when one expresses having intense feelings of attachment and preoccupations with the love object.
According to Tennov, there are at least two types of love: limerence, what she calls "loving attachment", and "loving affection," the bond that exists between an individual and his or her parents and children.[2]
Limerence is characterized by intrusive thinking and pronounced sensitivity to external events that reflect the disposition of the limerent object towards the individual. It can be experienced as intense joy or as extreme despair, depending on whether the feelings are reciprocated.
Unlike English, many other languages have traditional terms to denote limerence, like the German Verliebtheit, Scandinavian forelskelse, Brazilian Portuguese paixonite, Spanish enamoramiento, Catalan enamorament or Russian влюблённость (vlyublyonnost); these expressions may roughly be translated to “fallen-in-love-ness”.

So now that we got that out of the way I'd like to make clear this in away isn't really about me or anyone person for the matter but a discussion about Limerence itself. Feel free to post stories but make them short because this is sort of a research project.

Anyway let's begin!

[LoZz]

if your not after help or advice, or offering help or advice, it doesnt belong in the ph&a.

[Arch-hereticK]

I've done a few small projects on this topic loosley based on the works of David Lafontaine and his work in "SPACE" a few months ago. One in particular is hard to forget.

The primary characteristics of limerence can be summarized as intrusive, perhaps obsessive thinking about the limerent object and acute longing for reciprocation. Clinically, this state is marked by decrease of serotonin neurotransmitter, which leads to increase in emotional sensitivity and instability.

I've experienced this, ironically while researching for my final piece, with a model called Rebecca, who is so beautiful words cannot describe, but she's a lesbian. As an artits it had many possitive attributes such as huge amounts of creative energy and an incredible desire to impress.

I also recorded the physical effects; chest pains, lack of appetite, profuse sweating, and I "painted" the words in seminal fluid, which was in plentiful supply, on black satin (Duchampian reference).

The 2 objectives of the set of works were to determine the borders of love and limerence and the effects of "learned" aestheitics suffer when under the influence.

I enjoyed some critical success but lots of complaints from mothers of art sudents exposed to my "work".

I still havn't recovered properly, I still sleep with a portrait I did of her under my pillow.

[Hiero of Syracuse]

I've done a few small projects on this topic loosley based on the works of David Lafontaine and his work in "SPACE" a few months ago. One in particular is hard to forget.

The primary characteristics of limerence can be summarized as intrusive, perhaps obsessive thinking about the limerent object and acute longing for reciprocation. Clinically, this state is marked by decrease of serotonin neurotransmitter, which leads to increase in emotional sensitivity and instability.

I've experienced this, ironically while researching for my final piece, with a model called Rebecca, who is so beautiful words cannot describe, but she's a lesbian. As an artits it had many possitive attributes such as huge amounts of creative energy and an incredible desire to impress.

I also recorded the physical effects; chest pains, lack of appetite, profuse sweating, and I "painted" the words in seminal fluid, which was in plentiful supply, on black satin (Duchampian reference).

The 2 objectives of the set of works were to determine the borders of love and limerence and the effects of "learned" aestheitics suffer when under the influence.

I enjoyed some critical success but lots of complaints from mothers of art sudents exposed to my "work".

I still havn't recovered properly, I still sleep with a portrait I did of her under my pillow.

True.
Also Dorthy invented the term to describe the emotion that was neither love nor infatuation but an entirely different state. Though I'd like to add on from my own personal experience and say that it's an obsessive disorder of some sort, but it's somehow different due to it having the impression of it's victim being
When I initially had hallen head over heels for my limerent other, it began almost in a similar way a crush would, though limerence can be defined as such it's a state which if nurtured under certain circumstances can transform into a state being far more lethal than your average crush.

But the question for all limerent's is why us? Doctor Tennov has said the state of being limerent is entirely normal, but how so...many people do obsesess over love and relationships but can limerence be used to describe a state in which we are consumed, Sort of like anxiety is normal until it becomes a disorder.

Another question is that limerence seems to operate almost like another enitity, not to say we're possessed or anything but I see perfectly healthy people who become entirely different due to it's iron grip, It's like an addiction that we have to break alone, and what I mean by that is it's different for every person although there is a predictable chain of events that sooner or later occur, we can't really ask for advise from other people and expect it to 100% work.


I hope you a safe recovery, and I too have my own way of expressing my feelings for my limerent, even though I was rejected I still ask for her to be blessed even though I'm agnostic...pretty weird eh.
Well help continue the discussion I'm sure they are more people aside from the two of us here who are feeling this.

[MaximiIian]

I "painted" the words in seminal fluid, which was in plentiful supply, on black satin.

Never before have I seen such a poetic way to describe whackin' off.

to put in terms everybody can understand Horny

Nah, horny is just sexual attraction. Limerence is, as defined, the process of falling into and being in love. Which has far more emotional depth than just manifested sexual urges.

[Ummon]

But of course, we are humans. The most difficult thing to do is to remain reasonable in those situations, and if you manage to do so, it is painful.

I have always had an antipathy for (romantic) love. Why? Because human beings rarely deserve such intense affection.

[Bovril]

But of course, we are humans. The most difficult thing to do is to remain reasonable in those situations, and if you manage to do so, it is painful.

I have always had an antipathy for (romantic) love. Why? Because human beings rarely deserve such intense affection.

Surely love transcends deserving. If we only loved those who deserved it we should all be hermits loving only God, should we not? If we folllow Christ (or Budha or Mohammed) then we should love as a creative effort in our social realations, I would think. Aren't we taught that love is the perfect state that we all can approach, be it in our romantic lives our any other field of being?

[Copperknickers II]

Suffer? It is only suffered when it is unrequited, or when it is unpractical. A satisfied and fully requited romantic obsession must be the most beautiful thing in the world to feel, i would imagine. In this instance it is certainly a good thing, the best possible thing, but it happens rarely except in books and films.

[Solid Snake]

I think I have some Limerence, not as extreme as the above cases, but I have an overall of the "syntoms", I also have random chills or tremors, but I dont know their origin.

[Moorish guy]

to put in terms everybody can understand Horny

[Phier]

Silly name for falling in love, and it passes. Good thing too, because thats the kind of love where you do really stupid things.

[Hiero of Syracuse]

Well Coppernickers the majority of people do suffer from it, because in order to have limerence you need uncertainity and if none is present than I think you'd be feeling something else, but limerence is sort of an outlet a container if you will, it's a process with different anailments specific to that person but can be shared by many.
So I think it is safe to say limerence makes one suffer because when you're under that many hormones and feel uncertain it's hell I myself have felt that.