You whoop your kids?

[Noremac]

Do you/will you spank/whoop your kids?

[Ummon]

With wooden clubs full of glass shards and rusty nails...

[Beeeno]

With wooden clubs full of glass shards and rusty nails...

... eheheh, shame on you !!!!

[VALIS]

I don't have kids but If I did (or when I will) I'll spank 'em!

[Chaigidel]

I always wanted too, but I cant.

[Markas]

I have no arms. I type using my nose.

The most I'd do is a smack around the back of the legs, but nothing more. If you smack children too often it loses effectiveness.

[NONOPUST]

Ya I'm gonna spank the ers.

I don't want one of those rat bastard children crying and throwing a fit in the store when they don't get what they want.

I'll brain them with the closest thing in the store if I have to.

[mightyfenrir]

Oh the South and the word whoop! I'm not above a spanking here and there until the age of discussion, say about 5 or 6 when most kids can understand that running in the street might get you killed, but that guy is talking about parents that never ever disciplined their kids. We have corporal punishment in our school, which I hate, and which does no good, because the kids that misbehave in our school have never been disciplined.

[Visna]

Maybe a quick slap on the wrist or something, but I'd never hit or spank my child(ren). And if my bf/husband did it, he'd be out on his ass and elbows (or I'd be gone with the child) before he could say "liberal".

[So Much Fire]

Maybe a quick slap on the wrist or something, but I'd never hit or spank my child(ren). And if my bf/husband did it, he'd be out on his ass and elbows (or I'd be gone with the child) before he could say "liberal".

+1... since this is a common view amongst females, I guess it's safe to say my wife's going to have the same view so...

I would never in a million years spank or lay a finger on my kids, it's something I've picked up from someone else, is something that's "etched in stone" and will never change.

Btw, that guy should do standup or something.

[The Count(er)]

Well if the kid isn't a dense moron with the intelligence of a flea then there's way better ways to teach him something's wrong which don't involve violence, it just seems wholly unnecessary, and just seems like the lazy way to "solve" the problem. If I can teach a dog that something's wrong to do without violence than surely it can be done with a human.

[mightyfenrir]

+1... since this is a common view amongst females, I guess it's safe to say my wife's going to have the same view so...

I would never in a million years spank or lay a finger on my kids, it's something I've picked up from someone else, is something that's "etched in stone" and will never change.

Btw, that guy should do standup or something.

It's not totally universal, my wife agrees that a spanking is okay until kids can discuss what they're doing and why they shouldn't do it. If a kid doesn't understand "no" yet then just saying no isn't going to do a damn thing. A pat on the butt through a diaper with your hand, or even with clothes on never hurt anyone, but it lets them know that they should have listened to "no" the first time. Then when they get to 5 or 6 years old and can understand the connection between taking food in the store without paying and why it's wrong or the connection between playing in the road and dead children, then you can just verbally discipline.

I think there are better ways of diciplining a child rather than physically assulting them.
Personally I'm a terrible cook, so that's how I punish my disobidient cousins. Two hours locked in the bathroom is a much better learning experience than a sore wrist.

But my greatest punishment ever was (I'm quite proud of this) a few months ago I was looking after my cousin he was unco-operative (basically) so when I dropped him off at school I put a "kick me" sign on the back of his trousers. It was so funny just watching one kid kicking him like 20 times, it went on for ages.

I think a tap on the butt is a lot less detrimental than humiliating someone or causing them to have diarrhea. Most kids aren't going to understand the connection between breaking your vase and you making them or vomit for hours. They're going to blame a kid at school for hating them if you put a sign on their back too and if you gloat that you did it they're going to end up hating you a lot more than if you spanked them when they were 4.

[IronBrig4]

My brother and I got spanked when we were kids. Never beaten, but spanked on the butt if we got too far out of line. My Dad used a shoe and belt ONCE. We turned out all right.

While growing up, we were friends with quite a few Mexican and Chinese families. Each parent had their discipline tool of choice. Wooden salad spoons, spatulas, plastic bottles of mustard (yeah), the list went on. I also remember my Mexican friends running away from their angry mother, who was yelling in Spanish and throwing shoes at them.

[Helm]

I'll whoop any kids who wander within reach.

[Ciabhán]

I'll whoop any kids who wander within reach.

I once whooped someone elses child in a line at a book store because he punched my pregnant wife in the stomach and his mother just stood there. Prior to hitting my wife he punched an older lady who was walking past as well. His mother did not even attempt to apologise for his behaviour nor control it. As he was around 10 years old he was old enough to know better.

Don't worry bthizle I got the kicked out of me by the fella up until I was big enough to hit back and he and I still got along grand.

[NONOPUST]

I once whooped someone elses child in a line at a book store because he punched my pregnant wife in the stomach and his mother just stood there. Prior to hitting my wife he punched an older lady who was walking past as well. His mother did not even attempt to apologise for his behaviour nor control it. As he was around 10 years old he was old enough to know better.

WHOA! whoa... just whoa...

Are you serious?

I would've killed that little .

[Ciabhán]

WHOA! whoa... just whoa...

Are you serious?

I would've killed that little .

Yeah I am serious. Maybe if they had beat that little more he would have learned that hitting hurts. Be that as it may I bounced his fat little head off the counter so maybe he understood the lesson.

Bthizle: I am sorry to hear that mate. My old man used the closed fist approach and it was more of a boxing match that I lost very badly than it was beating a helpless child. I was not the kind that would respond to any other type of punishment, then again beating my arse didn't change my actions much either. I was too contrary a person.

Arch-Heretic: Most excellent job boyo. I had a friend back in the service who told me a story once. He received a phone call from his aunt asking him to help her 'parent' her oldest son who was around 15. Evidently her husband was gone and her son would not listen to her at all without him around. He went over to their house and invited his cousin out for a walk in the woods to talk and such. At some point during this walk he bound his cousin to a rather stout tree and told him he would be back for him after he learned his lesson. He then slunk off into the woods, circled around, waited a bit for dusk to set in then imitated a wolf's/dog's howl while rustling bushes in the area. Needless to say when he went back to let his cousin free the kid was absolutely terrified and evidently very well behaved after that.

[Helm]

Yeah I am serious. Maybe if they had beat that little more he would have learned that hitting hurts. Be that as it may I bounced his fat little head off the counter so maybe he understood the lesson.

He sounds like he could have been mentally retarded or something though. Still he managed to punch three entirely different generations of people in two assaults, that's impressive in a strange way.

[bthizle1]

Bthizle: I am sorry to hear that mate. My old man used the closed fist approach and it was more of a boxing match that I lost very badly than it was beating a helpless child. I was not the kind that would respond to any other type of punishment, then again beating my arse didn't change my actions much either. I was too contrary a person.

Yea...I questioned everything then and still do to this day. Even if I almost entirely know before hand an answer I'll still question it....this is one of those few instances in which I've been utterly indecisive on (so far as any kind of answer goes). I often wonder/ed why? I mean...at the time you try to convince yourself that it is because it is what's "right"....you're a kid and it's "justice" right? Your main exposure and understanding of what justice is (and really most "things" in life for that matter) at the time come from your parents. You learn from them, not only by what they tell you, but from how they act. Then your father (son-father...you know how you hope to look up to them) in an apparent fit of rage does physical harm to you. Hmmm...it's justice though right? I mean what I did was so unjustifiably "bad" in their opinion (which largely formulates yours at a young age), so it must be the correct means of allowing me to see what is "right" and what is "wrong".....no?

I take my experience and apply it to many if not all children and adults, not just whose past/present life was/is in correlation to being beat. Parents (not just biological) have a HUGE affect on their kids throughout their life, whether or not the child ever admits it. It simply comes down to the fact that we are to a large degree just products of our environment. They just so happen to be the majority of our humanly influenced environment which forms our contemporary thoughts when we're young. This isn't an argument for or against corporal punishment of children really....rather it acts as proof that parents immensely influence their child's self development (identity if you will). So please, please think about this when you are contemplating beating your child, or really telling and/or doing anything to them.

It's always a terrible thing to hear stories like the one you describe. They are more common than you'd think, unfortunately. My sympathy.

No sympathy is needed, I just hope that maybe one person will think about someone's first hand experience and not do the same to their child.

[Ummon]

Make sure they don't survive to wander off.