Why do people not hit their kids?

[MasterAdnin]

I fail to understand why people are reluctant to hit their kids, yet they are willing to just scream at their kids. When I say hit, I do not mean beat the child, I mean a slap to the thigh or butt or something of that sort. I honestly see no reason to yell at your kids and not hit them. Yelling usually does nothing and just makes the kid grow up in a worse environment. Anyone want to explain this to me?

Salaam,
Adnan

[finsternis]

I fail to understand why people are reluctant to hit their kids, yet they are willing to just scream at their kids. When I say hit, I do not mean beat the child, I mean a slap to the thigh or butt or something of that sort. I honestly see no reason to yell at your kids and not hit them. Yelling usually does nothing and just makes the kid grow up in a worse environment. Anyone want to explain this to me?

Salaam,
Adnan

People don't hit them because the law in the United states is that you can't hit a kid. Now, why do the government made that law? They think that hitting is worse than yelling and they are afraid of the parents who beat up their children for no reason.

I personally think that hitting the child every now and then that he/she does something wrong is ok (I was hit several times when I was a kid, and I turned out great, i think). The parents however must know self control and not hit the child for everything that they do. Just the worse of things.

[bjbessellieu]

I don't know, if my dad hit me, I would probably stop just short of killing him.... not a good idea in his case.

[bocheetus]

People don't hit them because the law in the United states is that you can't hit a kid. Now, why do the government made that law? They think that hitting is worse than yelling and they are afraid of the parents who beat up their children for no reason.

I personally think that hitting the child every now and then that he/she does something wrong is ok (I was hit several times when I was a kid, and I turned out great, i think). The parents however must know self control and not hit the child for everything that they do. Just the worse of things.

I guess the government thought that making something illegal stops it. Like that ever works . I've always felt that being yelled at is worse than being hit. The emotional abuse lasts longer than physical abuse. Furthermore the hitting involved is a mere slap and nothing more. Sometimes its the only thing that will work. It shows dominance. If animals do it why not humans

[finsternis]

I guess the government thought that making something illegal stops it. Like that ever works . I've always felt that being yelled at is worse than being hit. The emotional abuse lasts longer than physical abuse. Furthermore the hitting involved is a mere slap and nothing more. Sometimes its the only thing that will work. It shows dominance. If animals do it why not humans

Humans are animals, remember? So it makes sense it works on us.

[Ciabhán]

If it had not been for the looming threat of the fella coming home and belting me for something I would have done whatever I wanted whenever I wanted. Screaming and yelling and the "grounding" and "time-outs" that people use today would have done absolutely nothing to stop me seeing as all I would have had to worry about if I decided not to pay attention to the above would have been the threat of them. Ground a kid he leaves does what he wants and you what... ground him again for breaking the rules of being grounded? The same as learning not to place your hand on the oven burner, the pain of a belting gave you a deterrent.

[bocheetus]

If it had not been for the looming threat of the fella coming home and belting me for something I would have done whatever I wanted whenever I wanted. Screaming and yelling and the "grounding" and "time-outs" that people use today would have done absolutely nothing to stop me seeing as all I would have had to worry about if I decided not to pay attention to the above would have been the threat of them. Ground a kid he leaves does what he wants and you what... ground him again for breaking the rules of being grounded? The same as learning not to place your hand on the oven burner, the pain of a belting gave you a deterrent.

exactly, you have to show your dominance.

[The Good]

I do wholeheartedly believe in parental discipline. Hitting should be used to properly discipline a troublemaking child, but in moderation. Normally, discussing the problem should be done first. If the child refuses to listen, then the parent could spank him or her.

[Astaroth]

Hitting is a bad thing. It causes a bad and imo somewhat hostile atmosphere between children and their parents. I am not at all for anti-authoritatian stuff. But hitting takes it too far. I also think one shouldn't shout at children, at least not if they are ~below the age of 12 (if they get older and do really bad stuff then yeah, they might have to be shouted at).

If you have to resort to violence, no matter how little it is, you show nothing but how pathetic and weak you really are. If your only way of dealing with a CHILD for 's sake is beating it that is downright sad.

You have to show a child his or her limits. You shouldn't and actually musn't let the child do what it wants. That would also be some kind of "crime". But it is very possible to talk to the child in a strict but calm tone if it does something wrong. Or if it has to be disciplined. I stand to it - every child, unless it has major psychological problems, can easily be disciplined by just normal words and actions such as cutting pocket money etc. It comes down to nobody but the parents to act in a correct way and it will work all fine. My parents never hit me and they never had big trouble with me either. If a parent doesn't manage to do this, it is a problem on his side 99% of the time. It is same with teachers - unless the class is really "different" the problem is on the teacher's end most of the time.

Yelling and shouting is almost as bad. If a >10 years old child makes you lose your temper and you end up shouting at you you are a pathetic parent and should think whether you are ready to have children at all.

Thank god beating your children is illegal nowadays. Letting someone who is MUCH stronger use physical violence towards a child is a horrible thing. If you cannot deal with your child without violence, then well you should rather give it away or talk to a doctor.
I know it isn't that easy to always be calm etc. But it is very well possible.

[Calvin]

Hitting is a bad thing. It causes a bad and imo somewhat hostile atmosphere between children and their parents. I am not at all for anti-authoritatian stuff. But hitting takes it too far. I also think one shouldn't shout at children, at least not if they are ~below the age of 12 (if they get older and do really bad stuff then yeah, they might have to be shouted at).

If you have to resort to violence, no matter how little it is, you show nothing but how pathetic and weak you really are. If your only way of dealing with a CHILD for 's sake is beating it that is downright sad.

You have to show a child his or her limits. You shouldn't and actually musn't let the child do what it wants. That would also be some kind of "crime". But it is very possible to talk to the child in a strict but calm tone if it does something wrong. Or if it has to be disciplined. I stand to it - every child, unless it has major psychological problems, can easily be disciplined by just normal words and actions such as cutting pocket money etc. It comes down to nobody but the parents to act in a correct way and it will work all fine. My parents never hit me and they never had big trouble with me either. If a parent doesn't manage to do this, it is a problem on his side 99% of the time. It is same with teachers - unless the class is really "different" the problem is on the teacher's end most of the time.

Yelling and shouting is almost as bad. If a >10 years old child makes you lose your temper and you end up shouting at you you are a pathetic parent and should think whether you are ready to have children at all.

Thank god beating your children is illegal nowadays. Letting someone who is MUCH stronger use physical violence towards a child is a horrible thing. If you cannot deal with your child without violence, then well you should rather give it away or talk to a doctor.
I know it isn't that easy to always be calm etc. But it is very well possible.

You do realise that it is possible to be calm and to spank the child simply because they were naughty. It is a good form of discipline - barely hurts and to call it beating is plan ridiculous. A child knows he or she has overstepped the mark if spanking is used properly (as in only when serious disobedience etc has occurred). I was hit with wooden spoons and stuff by my parents and I do laugh at you with your tear jerking reaction to it all.

Sorry.

[gambit]

Hitting is a bad thing. It causes a bad and imo somewhat hostile atmosphere between children and their parents. I am not at all for anti-authoritatian stuff. But hitting takes it too far. I also think one shouldn't shout at children, at least not if they are ~below the age of 12 (if they get older and do really bad stuff then yeah, they might have to be shouted at).

If you have to resort to violence, no matter how little it is, you show nothing but how pathetic and weak you really are. If your only way of dealing with a CHILD for 's sake is beating it that is downright sad.

You have to show a child his or her limits. You shouldn't and actually musn't let the child do what it wants. That would also be some kind of "crime". But it is very possible to talk to the child in a strict but calm tone if it does something wrong. Or if it has to be disciplined. I stand to it - every child, unless it has major psychological problems, can easily be disciplined by just normal words and actions such as cutting pocket money etc. It comes down to nobody but the parents to act in a correct way and it will work all fine. My parents never hit me and they never had big trouble with me either. If a parent doesn't manage to do this, it is a problem on his side 99% of the time. It is same with teachers - unless the class is really "different" the problem is on the teacher's end most of the time.

Yelling and shouting is almost as bad. If a >10 years old child makes you lose your temper and you end up shouting at you you are a pathetic parent and should think whether you are ready to have children at all.

Thank god beating your children is illegal nowadays. Letting someone who is MUCH stronger use physical violence towards a child is a horrible thing. If you cannot deal with your child without violence, then well you should rather give it away or talk to a doctor.
I know it isn't that easy to always be calm etc. But it is very well possible.

What kind of nonsense is this. You're making it seem way worse than it truly is. Beating a child isn't grabbing a 2x4 and then bashing him over the head until he's so beat up he can't do anything anymore. It's a big warning sign saying 'You don't do that'. Pain is something that gets every single persons attention, and a simple spanking causes mild pain that goes away in 30 seconds. It is one of the most effective ways of getting someone to stop doing something, short of tieing them to a tree and stuffing an apple in their mouths, and it only causes a temporary discomfort in the child.

And NO, talking is not the only way. The reason we began hitting our kids in the first place is because they wouldn't listen, not just because we got a little irritated and decided to knock em one in the nose.

You're also implying people who will 'beat' their children will always resort to it right away. It's not like that. You start with talking, then onto yelling, then it's spanking.

Saying resorting to violence shows how weak and pathetic you are is just a stupid ing statement. No offense. We're not High school bullies picking on the middle schoolers or anything like that. It's parents and their kids, and if I'm not listening to my parents and then my parent grabbed me, leaned me over and spanked me a couple times, you're damn right I'm gonna stop what I was doing and listen for a bit.

Now I agree it is very delicate since there are parents who simply beat their children senseless, but making it illegal just makes it even harder for all parents to raise their children right. That is something wrong altogether.

[God-Emperor of Mankind]

Never got hit once by parents, there was no need to hit me.
If I did something bad they just removed the TV or SEGA/SNES.
A cruel punishment that did the trick.

[Samson]

Never got hit once by parents, there was no need to hit me.
If I did something bad they just removed the TV or SEGA/SNES.
A cruel punishment that did the trick.

Yes it sure did "TB666" hmmmm... you have no demons

[God-Emperor of Mankind]

Yes it sure did "TB666" hmmmm... you have no demons

Don't ever try to ing assume you know who I'am or my "demons".
Infact never do that on anyone especially not on a internet forum.
You do not know me and judging from your post I sure as hell don't wanna know you.
So do me a favor and never speak to me or about me.

[Astaroth]

Why would you need to resort to violence? There is not a single argument for it. You can do it without that. Hitting your child should be and luckily is illegal.

If an adult hits a child in a way to "punish" it, no matter how hard that is, that is nothing but pathetic and sad.

[Megas12345]

At the wee ages, a spank on the butt is reasonable, almost everyone gets that.. it is when the adolescence period comes that the concept of hitting changes, it.. IN SOME CASES.. can lead to the child feeling he is bad, dirty, a mistake etc. it can also lead to violent tendencies combined with other bad environment aspects, the child thinks "he hits me, i can hit other people etc" and can develop to more extreme levels.. in some cases.. sometimes the kid shuts up.. i still think hitting is a bad idea w/e cause for me.. well id kill my father or mother if they hit me

[LoZz]

Why would you need to resort to violence? There is not a single argument for it. You can do it without that. Hitting your child should be and luckily is illegal.

If an adult hits a child in a way to "punish" it, no matter how hard that is, that is nothing but pathetic and sad.

who said it was violent? the simple act of strikeing your child does not make it violent, its not a black and white issue.
there isnt a single argument against ether.
it just comes down to personal belifs. you feel its wrong, thats fine and thats perfectly right but it doesnt make you any better or more "right" then someone who thinks its ok. its just a different point of view.

if a parent wants to, thats there choice. it doesnt make them a lazy,bad or abusive parent. and you can raise a kid just fine with the odd smack. if a parent doesnt want to do it, thats fine as well, they are not weak, liberals or bad parents ether and you can raise kids fine without it.

it down to personal choice of the parent.

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[AqD]

who said it was violent? the simple act of strikeing your child does not make it violent, its not a black and white issue.
there isnt a single argument against ether.
it just comes down to personal belifs. you feel its wrong, thats fine and thats perfectly right but it doesnt make you any better or more "right" then someone who thinks its ok. its just a different point of view.

if a parent wants to, thats there choice. it doesnt make them a lazy,bad or abusive parent. and you can raise a kid just fine with the odd smack. if a parent doesnt want to do it, thats fine as well, they are not weak, liberals or bad parents ether and you can raise kids fine without it.

it down to personal choice of the parent.

No it's not. Children are humans not some pet animals.

If parents should be given the right to spank kids, then the kids should have the equal right to beat their parents back.

and it's not "anyone." its your mother.

So what? Does my mother have a higher value than others and deserve privileges?
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[Ex Tenebris Lux]

No it's not. Children are humans not some pet animals.

If parents should be given the right to spank kids, then the kids should have the equal right to beat their parents back.

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sorry i thought i could respond but i cant control the laughter....

[AqD]

sorry i thought i could respond but i cant control the laughter....

I don't see how it's funny.

If someone beats you, you should beat him back, or call for justice and send him to jail.
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