I'm breaking my silence with this....

[Roman Clone]

Hello Fellow Spammers, I have returned from a not-so-fruitful attempt at citizenship.

This is something..alright, SOMEONE who is bothering me. My father. Not only is only annoying, ungrateful, and ignorant, but he is an abusive man [Verbally, usually never physically.] He continually takes his anger out on me. On my birthday, he continually made me do chores and cursed at me. When I first got my Gateway, my dad got angry at something and yelled at me for supposedly doing something wrong when he clearly told me told me to do it.

And this is the one that offends me the most. Back in March, my computer was experiencing some real technical difficulties. I asked him to get it repaired, but he would give the answer "There's nothing I can do." Uh, Earth to Jack ass, I never said YOU had to repair it! Plus, he definitely had the money, it was tax season.


Finally, in September, it fries itself. What does he do? Laugh. After that, he goes ahead and buys my brother [younger one] who doesn't even need a computer, a brand new spanking Dell. To add insult to injury, he made me pick out the parts.

Think that's not enough? You should see what he did to my older brother, my dad called him every insult in the book, beat him up, and caused him to go into depression. My older brother is a bit mentally unstable now and he started smoking at age 15 because of my dad. One night I needed some medicine and my brother had it. So, my dad goes downstairs, takes a broom, and wacks my brother on the back with it. Then, he off his bed and my dad kicks him almost into unconsciousness.

I despise my father. Not only because my brother and I don't have an emotional father to turn to, not only because he made the entire family turn against my older brother, but is the reason I did not make friends. So, should I have the right to hate this man, or am I being to sensitive?

[Agent Provocateur]

Oh dear, these kind of posts are usually written by teenagers suffering it-soooo-unfair-itis, but this one does seem to show a man with very little self respect.

Just to be sure though, you should write a passage of the same length from your father's point of view. Try to be as fair as possible when considering what he might say and why. Then sit back and see if that makes a difference. That's what I always try to do, see it from the other's point of view, then condemne out of hand as ******s

[Roman Clone]

Oh dear, these kind of posts are usually written by teenagers suffering it-soooo-unfair-itis, but this one does seem to show a man with very little self respect.

Just to be sure though, you should write a passage of the same length from your father's point of view. Try to be as fair as possible when considering what he might say and why. Then sit back and see if that makes a difference. That's what I always try to do, see it from the other's point of view, then condemne out of hand as ******s

I can not get his point of view. He won't admit to his doings and I'm way to scared to talk to him.

RC... I suppose you live with you're brothers and dad only? You should really tell what he does to another fammily member. Cant you speak to you're grandparents or something? If there is no one else, you should contact authorities.

Umm, I have a younger brother, an older brother, a mother, a dog, a sister who is a twin to my younger brother, and my father. They all live in the same house. He only "abuses" my older brother, me, and rarely my younger brother.

call your relatives........specially your paternal grandparents :wink:

My I only have 2 grandmothers alive.... one of them is way to far away and sides with dad and the other is not really fit enough to pay bills as she suffered a stroke 4 years ago.

Good gods! That sounds horrible. The question about your mum is a good one though. What's her place in this story?

She knows what my dad is doing is wrong, but in the middle of the fights, she is scared about what my father would do and sides with him...

That doesn't in any way make it right. You, Roman Clone, have an obligation to turn your father into the authorities.

I have no faith in the authorities. Every time I threaten him I will get some type of help, he threatens to take away everything under my name and just laughs at me.

Roman Clone, the thing I would do is to try earning your Dad's respect. When I was younger, I got spankings when I did something wrong, but I didn't report him to the police, I took it like a man, and learned from it. Your Father does sound harsh though, more so than mine. I'd just advise that you try earning his respect, then later, try reasoning with him, to be more relaxed about things.

Whatever you do, Roman Clone, do not report your Father to the police, trust me, there is a better answer to your problem than that. Anyway, I also wish you a happy Thanksgiving.

-Lucius Julius

I can not even close to the man without fearing what to say to him. Plus, the reason I have no friends is because I wanted to get good grades which was my attempt at earning his respect. That eventually failed....

Beat him gently.

Ha, it's not a thread unless Juno posts!

I tried that once. He then shoved me into the wall and pushed me harder and harder. While calling me a bunch of ass-related words of course......

[Juno]

Ha, it's not a thread unless Juno posts!

I tried that once. He then shoved me into the wall and pushed me harder and harder. While calling me a bunch of ass-related words of course......

Buy a gun.

Oh, and anyone who says to take it like a "man," sure, he could do that and do the same to his kids later in life.

Give me a ****ing break.

[Roman Clone]

Buy a gun.

Oh, and anyone who says to take it like a "man," sure, he could do that and do the same to his kids later in life.

Give me a ****ing break.

So... your siding with me? Even after back when I first joined the Thema Devia when we were enemies?

[Juno]

So... your siding with me? Even after back when I first joined the Thema Devia when we were enemies?

I didn't know we were enemies, but if you say so.

[LoZz]

Quote:Every one of our parents does considerable emotional damage, and from what I've heard, it just might be the best part of being a parent. Now, if some guy ever does put a ring on your finger and you're lucky enough to pop out a youngster I'm sure you'll understand. But for now, believe me when I tell you I wouldn't care if this was the first time you ever met your daddy. Because, in reality... well, he could have done a much, much worse job.

pure synical bollocks. most parents do not set out to cause emotional damage and it certainly isnt the best part of having kids.

I can not get his point of view. He won't admit to his doings and I'm way to scared to talk to him.



Umm, I have a younger brother, an older brother, a mother, a dog, a sister who is a twin to my younger brother, and my father. They all live in the same house. He only "abuses" my older brother, me, and rarely my younger brother.




My I only have 2 grandmothers alive.... one of them is way to far away and sides with dad and the other is not really fit enough to pay bills as she suffered a stroke 4 years ago.




She knows what my dad is doing is wrong, but in the middle of the fights, she is scared about what my father would do and sides with him...





I have no faith in the authorities. Every time I threaten him I will get some type of help, he threatens to take away everything under my name and just laughs at me.



I can not even close to the man without fearing what to say to him. Plus, the reason I have no friends is because I wanted to get good grades which was my attempt at earning his respect. That eventually failed....



Ha, it's not a thread unless Juno posts!

I tried that once. He then shoved me into the wall and pushed me harder and harder. While calling me a bunch of ass-related words of course......

RC, i know what you want. you want the easy ansewer to your problems, you want someone to come here and just tell you a simple way to fix your problem much like when you fix a computer. your young your used to other people sorting out the major problems in your life like food and the roof over your head, however this is a problem you will have to fix yourself, and its not easy.


however, you and I both know that no simple fix exists. now a boy of your age shouldnt have to deal with these kind of issues but sadly you are going to have to man up and sort this out yourself, no one else will.

sadly i feel your mother is the silent person who justs lets her man abuse her and her kids. she knows what he is able to do and is scared stiff of him, and i am afraid this is role reversal, you are going to have to protect your mother.


you said it yourself he can not be reasoned with and there is no other realistic solution other then "beat the crap out of him" which wont stop him, and just make it worse.

this man needs help, and the help is out there you just need to get up and do it.

CPS do more then just take the kids out of the home, they do sit down and work things out with parents first, taking the kids away and breaking the family up is the last resort for these people, they do this job because they want to help people like you, and they can if you tell the truth and give them time. but you have to be honest and explain to them what he is like. all you have to do is tell the police and they will get them involved.


if you do nothing you will continue to feel like this, he wont stop it and you know it. he will do to you what he did to your brother, and one day you will snap and just make it worse, and whats to stop him doing this to your mother?!

i know and understand its ****ing hard to have the balls to stand up and do something about it, its so easy to just sit there and be depressed but if you do nothing this will just continue and possibly get worse, if you do something then their is a chance, a couple of years from now, you, your mother and brother could have some sort of normal happy family life. but its your choice.

ether the police, or your local child abuse hotline, ring them now. speaking out about him on an internet forum wont do anything, speaking to them will, you do that and you will have more courage then anyone here and be more of a man then your father ever could be

[NaptownKnight]

My dad is like this, but I made it through. Just don't worry about what he says, block him out. And do what he asks you to do, I mean even though he's your father he's not inclined to buy you something, but if you do what he says without winning, you might have a better chance.

[Savage_Swede]

I think you should call the police right now then leave and stay with your grandparents or a friend or something. You said he beat your brother up several times, so what the hell are you waiting for really? This is NOT normal or right in any way, and your father deserves jail or fines for this.

[VALIS]

Just kick his ass.

[NaptownKnight]

Beatings aren't normal? Me, most of my friends, and all of our parents all received beatings. One of my friends still gets whooppings, and he's 17! Beatings are perfectly normal.

[J.B.]

Beatings aren't normal? Me, most of my friends, and all of our parents all received beatings. One of my friends still gets whooppings, and he's 17! Beatings are perfectly normal.

That doesn't in any way make it right. You, Roman Clone, have an obligation to turn your father into the authorities. Not just for your own sake, but for your older brother and younger brother. You have seen what has happend and what he has done to your older brother, so there is no gurantee that he won't do it against you or your younger brother.

Your father is unworthy of being called a man, and so is every male who hits a child or woman.

And where is your mother in this picture?

[Kamos]

Beatings aren't normal? Me, most of my friends, and all of our parents all received beatings. One of my friends still gets whooppings, and he's 17! Beatings are perfectly normal.

Are we talking about the same type of beatings here? Its seems like Romans Clones Dad beats the ******* out of them for the heck of it. It's not give them a little whooping for punishment.

[LoZz]

Beatings aren't normal? Me, most of my friends, and all of our parents all received beatings. One of my friends still gets whooppings, and he's 17! Beatings are perfectly normal.

there is a difference between a loving, careing parent disciplining his/her children with a mild spanking and a violent man beating his children for no good reason useing excessive force.

i myself am not a fan of CPS and the police getting involved in family matters, however this isn't some trivial case of a parenting spanking a child, this is abuse, pure and simple and roman clone, seriously, call the police otherwise you family will continue to suffer and you dont want to end up like your older brother, i know it takes guts.

in the uk we have something called childline where abused kids can ring up and get help, i guess the usa has something like that i recomend you ring that

[molonthegreat]

Wow that is real bad and youre not overly sensitive contact the police or something how does he threat you younger brother?

[Trax]

One of my friends still gets whooppings, and he's 17!

By that age one should be big and strong enough not to take the beating anymore.

[Magic Man]

By that age one should be big and strong enough not to take the beating anymore.

I used to get beats a bit when i was younger, nothin serious, but enough to let me know it was a punishment.

I dont hold it against my dad, i was probably acting like a little bastard.

Me and my dad get on fine now, the fact that im bigger/stronger than him also discourages further beatings

[Savage_Swede]

Beatings aren't normal? Me, most of my friends, and all of our parents all received beatings. One of my friends still gets whooppings, and he's 17! Beatings are perfectly normal.

Think that's not enough? You should see what he did to my older brother, my dad called him every insult in the book, beat him up, and caused him to go into depression. My older brother is a bit mentally unstable now and he started smoking at age 15 because of my dad. One night I needed some medicine and my brother had it. So, my dad goes downstairs, takes a broom, and wacks my brother on the back with it. Then, he off his bed and my dad kicks him almost into unconsciousness.

What, are you stupid? Just because your parents may perhaps be screwed up, doesn't make it normal. For god's sake! I'm am completely stunned by that post, "perfectly normal", yeah sure!

Seriously, if i was your friend and knew about this, i would call the police without a second thought.

[Agent Provocateur]

Actually, sratch my earlier post in the general gloom of your post I overlooked the bit about you father beating your brother nearly unconscious.

That is NOT normal. Any civilised country has laws against this.

You need to think carefully about your situation, what has and is happening to your oder brother and what might happen to you younger brother.

[joerd9]

Good gods! That sounds horrible. The question about your mum is a good one though. What's her place in this story?

Apart from that: I don't know where you live, but assuming it is somewhere in a western country, you should contact the authorities. Not necessarily the police - some sort of youth welfare office should be able to deal with the matter and probably know some sensible approach to it.

Man, it always makes me angry when I hear such stories...