Just to update you.. yesterday we had the memorial.. it was a nice day, I could see his mom (she's almost 80 now) to be happy of the fondness and love people showed to her in memory of her son. We literally had people coming from all over Italy and a few even from abroad, there were about 400 people to watch the match (which is quite something in our small municipality), the atmosphere was friendly and we had a nice buffet at the end. I'm making peace with life, that
sorry for the double edit and the somewhat contorted line of thoughts.. I'm still coping with what I've realized today, but now I see it better.. I definitely need to talk again with his brother.
Originally Posted by Turkafinwë Other than ego it is also about self-worth I believe. Is debating with someone who is so entrenched in their beliefs and thought patterns worth your time? It is as you say, do you feel confident enough to know you have the right of it when nobody else acknowledges it or do you feel the need to hear from others that you are right? Often BEING right is less important than hearing from others that you are right regardless of whether you truly are right or wrong. One thing is certain I don't think either of us will die an ordinary man! Indeed. Also, honestly I don't plan to die at all
Other than ego it is also about self-worth I believe. Is debating with someone who is so entrenched in their beliefs and thought patterns worth your time? It is as you say, do you feel confident enough to know you have the right of it when nobody else acknowledges it or do you feel the need to hear from others that you are right? Often BEING right is less important than hearing from others that you are right regardless of whether you truly are right or wrong. One thing is certain I don't think either of us will die an ordinary man!
Originally Posted by Narf As he said! You a good one! Also, maybe just say **** it call his wife, invite her and kid over right now, set up a nice afternoon, talk about him, EVEN WITH THE KID. Is a kid, not stupid. Its ok if it's tough, so tell some of the funny moments, and quirks he had. Hed be glad to be spoken of by those that held him dear I'm sure. Let conversation pass to other things naturally. Just spitballing, I'm no expert on any of this. Sorry for your loss. Be well, take care. <3 It's not easy at all to deal with his wife, honestly. Things are becoming ugly right now in terms of their internal relations (with his mother and brother) and I fear that it won't end well at all.. but that's their business after all, so I can't really comment on that. I still miss him, anyways
As he said! You a good one! Also, maybe just say **** it call his wife, invite her and kid over right now, set up a nice afternoon, talk about him, EVEN WITH THE KID. Is a kid, not stupid. Its ok if it's tough, so tell some of the funny moments, and quirks he had. Hed be glad to be spoken of by those that held him dear I'm sure. Let conversation pass to other things naturally. Just spitballing, I'm no expert on any of this. Sorry for your loss. Be well, take care. <3
Originally Posted by ♔Greek Strategos♔ Once more, I'm really sorry for you loss, my dude! I was also emerging from a world of at the time and I wasn't there for you, so I feel so bad about it. Well, no one can take your cousin's memories from you, they will always be yours and he will always be a special person in your heart! Time will make it just a bit easier, but from personal experience I can tell you that you'll always feel his absence and you know why? Because you're a good person! The memento is also really touching and it's full of true feelings and memories! I'm sure his loved ones and friends really appreciated your gesture! I'm more than sure that you'll honor his memory and the best advice I could give you is this: Live your life to the fullest, live your life for you and for him as well!
Once more, I'm really sorry for you loss, my dude! I was also emerging from a world of :wub: at the time and I wasn't there for you, so I feel so bad about it. Well, no one can take your cousin's memories from you, they will always be yours and he will always be a special person in your heart! Time will make it just a bit easier, but from personal experience I can tell you that you'll always feel his absence and you know why? Because you're a good person! The memento is also really touching and it's full of true feelings and memories! I'm sure his loved ones and friends really appreciated your gesture! I'm more than sure that you'll honor his memory and the best advice I could give you is this: Live your life to the fullest, live your life for you and for him as well!
Originally Posted by Turkafinwë Life is like a wild river raft ride. You can fight against the current and drown or go with the flow and steer the current where you can and see where you end up. Sometimes you'll get wet and cling on for dear life and sometimes you'll find that perfect line. Life's not a 100% success story, fialure and disappointment is part of the course. Chances won and most lost. Best we can do is enjoy the ride while it lasts! As my favourite character from the Wheel of Time, Mat Cauthon, would say: It's time to toss the dice! Alea Iacta Est.. There's one big lesson in general, that everybody needs to learn: the only certain thing in life, is death.. the rest is just chances.
Life is like a wild river raft ride. You can fight against the current and drown or go with the flow and steer the current where you can and see where you end up. Sometimes you'll get wet and cling on for dear life and sometimes you'll find that perfect line. Life's not a 100% success story, fialure and disappointment is part of the course. Chances won and most lost. Best we can do is enjoy the ride while it lasts! As my favourite character from the Wheel of Time, Mat Cauthon, would say: It's time to toss the dice!
It will be long before we could heal from this, but thanks for your kind words anyways
Life's harshness in full display. Losing someone, even when you know it's coming, is always tough. Nothing truly prepares you when the moment arrives. (I had this with the mother of my best friend when she died of cancer a couple of years ago, she was like a mother to me too). May Maurizio rest in peace now and your wounds start to heal mate.
Originally Posted by Dismounted Feudal Knight Surely the art of 'programming' is native to politics. It's just that the programming does not inherently carry a goal of efficiency or progress at a universal or compromising scale. As you say, there is always motive, and failure by political incompetence itself has strong motives. So true. I wish it was different, honestly.
Surely the art of 'programming' is native to politics. It's just that the programming does not inherently carry a goal of efficiency or progress at a universal or compromising scale. As you say, there is always motive, and failure by political incompetence itself has strong motives.
Originally Posted by Turkafinwë I also absolutely detest working reactively. I'd rather spend a couple of days programming to automate a task than always having to start from zero, even for the smallest of tasks. It's more work in the short term but once you have those templates ready, oh baby, is the work gonna go smooth. Hopefully you'll get something done with those generous funds. It'll be gone before you know it. yes programming, in general, isn't a quality modern politics consider worthy
I also absolutely detest working reactively. I'd rather spend a couple of days programming to automate a task than always having to start from zero, even for the smallest of tasks. It's more work in the short term but once you have those templates ready, oh baby, is the work gonna go smooth. Hopefully you'll get something done with those generous funds. It'll be gone before you know it.
Chapter 9, Chapter 10 and Chapter 11.
I'd argue one more point on consequence; one can easily consider the job easy (from politics to, I argue, retail) if they detach themselves, while the true hardship comes in caring especially when those around you don't. That's precisely my point However, thanks for reading and commenting, as usual you have nailed it down pretty well.
A lot of the essence of politics is people sharing a vague ideal of goodness but radical differences on how to achieve it, and worse, fundamental inconsistencies in what they consider the path of goodness to be. When people operate on different facts, civility crumbles. And that is before the very real fact when people are just plain greedy and take their actions for personal benefit; invariably as one gets deeper, personal benefit means sustaining the system that becomes the career of a person. As people become accustomed to the 'job' of politics, they take stakes in it the way any normal person would for their position in a workplace, and yet the stakes in this 'job' is the well being of local civilization. But people can do all sorts of things with various effects on those they affect and sleep well at night, as long as they are detached from the consequences. This heart of politics is applicable at every level of interaction, from job politics to online communities to of course the infamous governmental positions. Same seeds, different reach. I'd argue one more point on consequence; one can easily consider the job easy (from politics to, I argue, retail) if they detach themselves, while the true hardship comes in caring especially when those around you don't. Or as I opened up, both parties care, but for clashing reasons...
Originally Posted by Septentrionalis I am glad to have stumbled upon this post. As a total wine connoisseur (TWC), I enjoy stories by people who actually produce the ambrosia that makes this dreary life more tolerable. you should really read the whole blog then
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