Going Out of Your Way To Talk to Someone - Opinions

[ccllnply]

Just wanted to know what people's are on going out of your way to talk to certain people. Like if you know someone is going to be somewhere or you know they work you go there even though it's not totally necessary or what you originally planned.

And I'm not talking about the stalkerish, you go around finding out where people are going for the day then go there and follow them around staring at their arse.

I simply mean if you hear from conversation or social media that someone you know and are interested in, either romantically or just friendly, is doing something, you go do that thing as well in the hope of meeting up with them.

For example, if they are going out somewhere local on a certain night that you decide to go out that night as well. Or if they are working somewhere like a shop and you're passing by you go in and get something that you might not urgently need of (again, I'm not talking about going in and buying shoes when you've three pairs at home) in the hope of interacting with them. Or if you are in the same place as them on an outing and wait around longer or leave at the same time as them to have a conversation alone.

Went slightly overboard with the examples but I hope you get my idea. So what's the opinion on this? Is it pathetic? A good way to get to know people? Or just downright childish?

[aqd]

I wonder that too. I have nothing to talk to her though, just seeing her makes me feel happy.

[ccllnply]

I wonder that too. I have nothing to talk to her though, just seeing her makes me feel happy.

Yeah, I get what you mean.

To be honest, it's not a current problem as something I tend to do a good bit, and rarely with love interests, more with friends. I was just looking to get other people's opinion on it because I have some friends who do it as well, where as others are nothing like that.

[The Juggernaut]

My advice (from someone who sucks at this) is if you like her, and you're not reading her mail or remotely tracking her, it's healthy to try to find ways to be around a certain special soomeone, particularly if you want to get to know them better. My advice is, if you're going to go someplace to see her, talk to her, get acquainted, then make a move.

As a side note, think about the places you're going JUST for her. If you would never go to a place like where you're at normally, then either open yourself up to change or reevaluate what you're doing. Just a heads up.

[ccllnply]

My advice (from someone who sucks at this) is if you like her, and you're not reading her mail or remotely tracking her, it's healthy to try to find ways to be around a certain special soomeone, particularly if you want to get to know them better. My advice is, if you're going to go someplace to see her, talk to her, get acquainted, then make a move.

As a side note, think about the places you're going JUST for her. If you would never go to a place like where you're at normally, then either open yourself up to change or reevaluate what you're doing. Just a heads up.

Yeah, I feel that going totally out of your way would be over the top like going to a nightclub you never go to usually. I just talking about slightly going out of your way.

I don't know about other people, but I usually feel I have more confidence in these situations compared to directly going and making contact with someone. Don't know why, maybe it's the fact that you just feel less vunerable, because it's like you're just there, not there for them but either way it works, or appears to work or at the very least, doesn't not work

[Andy Mc]

Sounds pretty normal. Just means your being social without going overboard.

[Arbitrary Crusader]

I think it fine(Because I do it too )

As long you don't go stalker mod on them or overboard, It ok.

Since I am lonely for the most week in college, I decided to pop in my lady friend work place or visit my high school to speak with the teachers every one or two week.

At times, It can be painful to get to high school or my friend work place. But at the end of the day, I, at least, had the joy of a social conversion with the peoples I cared for (Beside family of course).

[ccllnply]

Well, it seems the general opinion is that it's fine and normal. Rather suprised at that to be honest. Don't know what that says about me though

Anyway, to expand on my thoughts in relation to this, what are people's opinion on the same subject but you don't really have a conversation with the person, like just saying hello or just having a small, short conversation if, say, you were in a rush?