Those who spy are those who are the worst.
Those who spy are those who are the worst.
Last edited by Guy; May 10, 2012 at 06:05 PM.
In all seriousness, hang in there. It's only a few months away
Last edited by Saint Nicholas; April 19, 2012 at 10:27 AM.
...However! You seemed to have fixed that problem. You say that in the winter you'll be moving to Germany next to her (Or with her, I didn't quite understand that part), so I'm pretty sure she's more than willing to wait, as are you. Winter isn't too far away my dear, don't despair. If you've made it this far, it should be easy to carry on further.
It's absolutely normal that she wants to give up sometimes, and it is equally as normal if you do as well. The question isn't what we want at a specific moment, the question is what we do about it and what we want overall. What do I mean?
Well, basically, at 7:30 AM you might want to call her because you spent the night without her and you miss her so... But at 9:30 AM after you called her, you feel as if she's not the one for you. Maybe you're wasting your time waiting for her? At 12:30 you slap yourself silly because you realize that for the past five hours you only thought of her! You think she's the one for you. At 17:00, when you get back home (That's 5 PM, by the way), you're exhausted from the long day you had and you don't want to talk to anyone. But just then she calls you.
My point is: That during a certain time period it is perfectly normal to feel different things, the obvious conclusion from your relationship is that she's still waiting for you, and she hasn't given up on you (I think it's mostly because she knows you'll be moving in soon), so don't think about it too much my dear. It sounds to me like you're on the high road and I wish you the most luck possible on it, because you have obviously found something special. Long distance rarely works and it takes quite a bit of dedication from both parties to make it work - Kudos to the both of you!
If you trust her, then trust her. Don't worry. The important thing is that you will be with her again, and you will move in during the winter. In my eyes? This sounds like a beginning of a fantastic relationship and I can only hope for myself and all the people I know to know such happiness.
Don't worry about it, you're thinking too much. Just enjoy it, and make sure she knows you miss her... Honestly, you seem to be making it work. Best of luck my dear! We're here for you if you need us, and if you want something more personal I'm always happy to lend an ear or a shoulder if you need it... However, honestly... I think I should be taking advice from you
I know the feeling,you like to devote yourself into a relationship,and loosing this one would kill you.But dont worry,its England-Germany,plus you'll be moving with her! how awesome is that! have a bit of patience and it will all be ok
To make long story short figure out how to get out of this situation asap. Move in together, relocate next to each other, or stop it at all. I've done long distance for 2 years, it started off similar to what you describe, but after two years of doing it every little special part of our relationship was simply destroyed for one reason or another; being apart mostly, being stupid and not thinking of another person, cheating, etc. I was a strong believer in that we would make it through, which we almost did. Never again will I do long distance. It's hard and sometimes just pointless, and you end up hurt in one way or another.
I hope it works out for you.
Well he did say he was moving in, when winter comes.
Long distance will only kill a weak relationship. In college we used to wait for the heart break stories as the freshmen would go home for xmass and their girlfriends would break up with them.
I was long distance with my now wife for 3 years of our relationship. It was no big deal because our relationship wasn't going to crumble based on not being together for a few months at a time.
Basically if it fails, I think odds are it would have failed eventually anyways. Finding that out early is better than 2 years in.
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