Mum gets a stripper for son's birthday

[Marshal Qin]

Mum charged for hiring stripper for son
09:49 AEST Sun May 29 2005
AAP
AP - A mother faces criminal charges after she hired a stripper to dance at her 16-year-old son's birthday party.

Anette Pharris, 34, and four others were indicted by a grand jury on charges of contributing to the delinquency of a minor and involving a minor in obscene acts.

"It's a bunch of bull," Pharris told The Tennessean newspaper. "I tried to do something special for my son. It didn't harm him."

About 30 people were at Landon Pharris' 16th birthday party in September, about 10 of them under the age of 18.

"We even had grandpa there," his mother said.

She said a stripper was nothing to get upset about in their neighborhood, where prostitution and drug use are common.




"Age is just a number," Pharris said. "My son is very mature."

Nashville police spokesman Don Aaron said minors who were not related to the family also attended the party.

"Minors are not permitted in adult establishments in Nashville or anywhere in this state," he said. "A person shouldn't be allowed to circumvent that law by hiring a stripper, a lady who took all her clothes off and spent a good amount of time dancing around minors."

Cassandra Joyce Park, 29, who police say used the stage name Sassy, danced for a few hours before "the guys" took up a collection and paid her $US150 ($A200) more to fully disrobe, Pharris said.

Park was charged, as were her escort to the party, Jeffrey Scott Harper; the owner of the entertainment business, Kirk Anthony Yates, 37; and the birthday boy's father, also named Landon Pharris.

Police said Anette Pharris and her then 14-year-old son, Brandon, took photos at the party and tried to have them developed at a nearby drug store.

"Who are they to tell me what I can and can't show to my own children?" she said. "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone."


©AAP 2005

This is a mother who still thinks that what happens in the family is none of the rest of the world's business. She's right imo, but its not the world we live in now. Too many outsiders have a say in family business through government agencies.

[bthizle1]

....Lucky bastard.

[Bovril]

I don't have a promblem with what the mother did. Every 14 year old boy looks at porn, and this all happened in a safe, private environment. However, I think we need to be quite careful about censuring all public intervention in family life. There as a time when stopping a husband from beating his wife was considdered meddling, and a lot of people still think beating up kids is ok (I know the difference between a smack and real beating). I'd class hiring a stripper for a four year old's party as child abuse, but not a 14 year old.

[Carousel]

I agree Marshal, theres too much of soeciety telling people how to raise their kids these days.

[General Sun]

That's because you guys don't have kids. It's pretty horrific that the world allows mothers to hire strippers for the SIXTEEN year old son's birthday!

[LegionnaireX]

Thats rather perverted for a mother to hire a stripper for her son's birthday party. Yes it's true that kids sometimes look at porn. I sometimes look at porn; but for my own mother to hire a stripper, that's just kinda gross. Most mothers are all against strippers cuz they think they degrade women and stuff.

[Guderian]

I thinks thats sick. Sure every 16 year old boy would love to have a stripper at his bday party. But if she was hired by thier mum not only would it be really awkward but id be questioning what kind of stuff goes on within that family.

"Age is just a number," Pharris said. "My son is very mature."

Sounds like something a paedophille would say. Sure " Too many outsiders have a say in family business " but at least it keeps the bastards honest. Id rathar have a invasion of privacy than tolerate incest and child abuse.

And whats with females getting off lightly and even being made celebrities for being paedophilles. For example Mary Kay Letourneau, this lady had sex with a twelve year old boy (Vili Fualaau) who was her student and was convicted of statutory rape. Now she's out of jail and she and Vili Fualaau got married. The marriage was televised on Entertainment Tonight! WTF! Id like to see a male teacher have sex with a female twelve year and then come outta jail and marry her and have it all televised on ET. Well i wouldnt really but you know what i mean. Females paedophilles getting off easy BAH! :sick

http://crime.about.com/od/history/p/Letourneau.htm

[Ó Cathasaigh]

I'm conflicted

first of all, I wouldn't mind getting a stripper for my 18th birthday, coming up
Second, isn't that a bit creapy of your mother to get you a stripper?

[Gelatinous Cube]

I had a crazy Mom, so I can sympathize. If this guy's mother was at all like mine, it really was no harm and no foul, and none of your business. Some mom's just do crazy things.

[Carousel]

Id rathar have a invasion of privacy than tolerate incest and child abuse.

I fail to see where incest comes into this. That reminds me of the old addage of people relating homosexuality to paedophilia. If the MOTHER had given him a strip tease then hell yeah, indecent conduct. But as Gelatinous says above, some moms and sons have a laugh. My family probably woulda hired me a stripper sub-18 if it had crossed their mind, and it wouldn't have been to abuse me or perform incest (???).

[Adrian Laguna]

I don't get why some people are getting so worked up about this. There would be a problem if the boy was a few years younger, but he is sixteen, that is as old as I am, look at my profile under 'interests'. Really the only issue here is that there were other minors who probably did not have their parents permision to watch a stripper. As far as the kid and his mother are concerned there should be no issue.

[Marshal Qin]

Originally posted by General_Sun@May 29 2005, 09:29 PM
That's because you guys don't have kids. It's pretty horrific that the world allows mothers to hire strippers for the SIXTEEN year old son's birthday!

I have 3, and I don't see a problem with it depending on the level of maturity of the kids present at the party. Hell, I'd even get a hooker for him just to relieve some of the stress that all those 16 year old hormones are producing.

as for government interference, sure there are some crap families out their with paedophiles etc.. but right now the pendulum has swung too far and parents have NO legal control over their offspring any more. You smack your kid on the hand for stealing and the kid can be taken away from you and you will be put on a social security watchlist for being an abusive parent.

[General Sun]

I have nothing against incest, it's the same as beastiality, necrophilia, and all that rest. If that's how you get off, if that's what 2 assenting adults like, then so be it.

But minors? That's illegal, and those people should be put in jail.

[LegionnaireX]

Originally posted by Marshal Qin@May 29 2005, 10:38 PM
I have 3, and I don't see a problem with it depending on the level of maturity of the kids present at the party. Hell, I'd even get a hooker for him just to relieve some of the stress that all those 16 year old hormones are producing.

as for government interference, sure there are some crap families out their with paedophiles etc.. but right now the pendulum has swung too far and parents have NO legal control over their offspring any more. You smack your kid on the hand for stealing and the kid can be taken away from you and you will be put on a social security watchlist for being an abusive parent.

:shocked Wow. This is the first time I've seen a parent even consider hiring a whore for their son. Some parent you must be.

[Carousel]

Marshal Marshal Marshal.....you know we've always been best friends..... so uhh........want to adopt me? *tongue*

:lol :happy

[Gelatinous Cube]

Originally posted by legionaireX+May 29 2005, 09:40 PM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (legionaireX @ May 29 2005, 09:40 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> <!--QuoteBegin-Marshal Qin@May 29 2005, 10:38 PM
I have 3, and I don&#39;t see a problem with it depending on the level of maturity of the kids present at the party. Hell, I&#39;d even get a hooker for him just to relieve some of the stress that all those 16 year old hormones are producing.

as for government interference, sure there are some crap families out their with paedophiles etc.. but right now the pendulum has swung too far and parents have NO legal control over their offspring any more. You smack your kid on the hand for stealing and the kid can be taken away from you and you will be put on a social security watchlist for being an abusive parent.

:shocked Wow. This is the first time I&#39;ve seen a parent even consider hiring a whore for their son. Some parent you must be. [/b][/quote]
Please don&#39;t insult the man. I bet his kids will grow up to be fine people, as compared to children who grow up in cloistered and politically correct homes.

[HorseArcher]

I didn&#39;t need my mom to get me a stripper, i did it myself. went out and enjoyed the "view", and my friends got me drunk as hell on my 16th bday. That was some party. waking up and realizing that i was sleeping in my vomit.

[Guderian]

I fail to see where incest comes into this. That reminds me of the old addage of people relating homosexuality to paedophilia. If the MOTHER had given him a strip tease then hell yeah, indecent conduct. But as Gelatinous says above, some moms and sons have a laugh. My family probably woulda hired me a stripper sub-18 if it had crossed their mind, and it wouldn&#39;t have been to abuse me or perform incest (???).

I wasnt implying that the mother was trying to have incest with her son. My statement was in response to Marshall Qin. What i was saying was that for me government agencies poking thier heads into a family&#39;s business is not a problem since it can in some cases prevent the abuse of children.

have 3, and I don&#39;t see a problem with it depending on the level of maturity of the kids present at the party. Hell, I&#39;d even get a hooker for him just to relieve some of the stress that all those 16 year old hormones are producing.

You say that but i wonder if you&#39;d really do it. Do you really want your son to sleep with a hooker? I have no problem getting a stripper for my son after the age of 18...but 16. And with fathers and sons its a different relationship then a mother and son. Would you get a stripper for your 16 year old daughter then sit with her during the show?

as for government interference, sure there are some crap families out their with paedophiles etc.. but right now the pendulum has swung too far and parents have NO legal control over their offspring any more. You smack your kid on the hand for stealing and the kid can be taken away from you and you will be put on a social security watchlist for being an abusive parent

Yeah thats true but i guess the problem is when smacking on the hand turns into beating with a belt or something like that. The problem is the government is just too lazy or wimpy to clearify thier statute laws and rely on the courts to do it.

[Etnoan]

Originally posted by legionaireX+May 29 2005, 10:40 PM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (legionaireX @ May 29 2005, 10:40 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> <!--QuoteBegin-Marshal Qin@May 29 2005, 10:38 PM
I have 3, and I don&#39;t see a problem with it depending on the level of maturity of the kids present at the party. Hell, I&#39;d even get a hooker for him just to relieve some of the stress that all those 16 year old hormones are producing.

as for government interference, sure there are some crap families out their with paedophiles etc.. but right now the pendulum has swung too far and parents have NO legal control over their offspring any more. You smack your kid on the hand for stealing and the kid can be taken away from you and you will be put on a social security watchlist for being an abusive parent.

:shocked Wow. This is the first time I&#39;ve seen a parent even consider hiring a whore for their son. Some parent you must be. [/b][/quote]
Wow. his sons are most likely more mature than you judging by most of your posts here.

[Marshal Qin]

so how many of you even know any hookers? I know plenty. Some are single mums struggling to survive, others are university students trying to pay their way, while yet others are unemployable or live in socially depressed areas where making ends meet means doing anything to survive.

Where I work in China (in hotels) all high star hotels have a beauty salon and sauna where extra services are offered. I don&#39;t like the fact that they are in the hotels (my job is related to quality management) but its a part of the culture here. i speak with them daily to ensure they don&#39;t step over the line with regards to the set of rules I gave them. Most are the daughters of farmers with absolutely zero chance of getting a job that pays more than 400rmb per month (8.2 rmb = 1 dollar). As hookers, maybe they get 1 customer every other day and they can earn in 1 month more than their family earns in an entire year - all of which goes back to supporting their families or children (many are single mothers)

They are all subject to health checks and I&#39;ve made it my personal responsibility to give them the latest information on sexually transmitted diseases from around the world. They are less likely to give you a disease than the average slut that you can pick up with a can of beer and a good one-liner at any local nightclub.

As for my son (I have 2 daughters), if the situation warrents it, then yes, I would consider getting him a hooker - its not a case of hiring a girl for the job no matter what. I&#39;d rather he gets some release if he&#39;s sexually frustrated than turn into a rapist out of curiosity. I don&#39;t think many of you know just how many unreported date rapes go on in the world.